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Soulmate, Myself:
Omega Point

Kairissi & Elenchus:

XI
 

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Elenchus. I was thinking about how much I like talking to you.

Kairissi. I'm glad there's something about me you like.

E. I mean, it’s more than just conversation. I like talking to you more than doing anything else with you. This could sound unlikely because you know I am interested in physical love.

K. (softly) Tell me what you really feel about this.

E. Whenever I have a new idea, or realize I want to set a goal for this-or-that, or feel moved by a new lesson-learned in life – immediately, I'm compelled to say, “I have to tell Kriss about this!”

K. (softly) What does this mean for us?

E. It means we’re not “John and Mary.” I know what it’s like to have the name John. And John knows nothing about this.

K. How does John see it?

E. John chooses Mary for a lot of reasons; and this might differ somewhat from couple to couple. Usually, though, John is primarily interested in picking a “Mary” who’s pretty and competent and can run a household – but, sharing his innermost thoughts isn’t usually part of the package.

K. He will talk to Mary about family finances, what’s happening with the kids, and who’ll take out the garbage.

E. But most men named John don’t really extend the “pillow talk” beyond mundane items. Not really. That’s not what he signed on for.

K. Would you like to hear an insight I have about this? Remember “Constructive Assent”? We said that the very essence and heart of a contract is a “meeting of the minds.” And this is true even between true lovers, Twin Souls.

E. Ok...

K. A “meeting of the minds” for true lovers will express itself as a desire to share all things of the mind, the heart, and the soul. That’s why you want to “rush” to me whenever something important passes through your head.

E. (silence)

K. This “meeting of the minds,” this center of relationship, is so important to you that, as much as you require and crave physical love with me, “the touching of bodies” is not what it’s really about for us. “The touching of bodies,” for true lovers, is just an outward expression of the real union, the “marriage of spirits,” the “meeting of the minds,” which enthralls you so.

E. Sometimes… I remember what happened to us… the hurtful things you said and did…

K. (silence)

E. And I guess I understand more clearly now why it hurt me so much… With someone else I would have shrugged it off – but you are the girl, the one girl in the universe, with whom I was meant to know the ultimate “meeting of the minds.” And if that sacred ideal becomes perverted, then I feel very alone and become undone… it strikes directly at existential purpose for me, “what I stay alive for.”

K. I understand.

E. I once started making a list – I may have told you – of all the things where you’re “the most this to me,” or "the greatest that to me,” or "the only one with whom I’ve ever experienced such-and-such.” When I started the list, I thought I might be able to come up with maybe 25 items or so. But when I passed 60 or 70 on the list, it finally occurred to me, “There're an infinite number of things on this list where you’re the only one.”

K. (silence)

E. I came to see it as infinite because I realized that whatever you touch in my life, or will touch in the future, each of these is to become “the most” or “the greatest” or “the only one.” All of life becomes new, for me, in your presence.

K. And I suppose that simply talking with me is the most elemental of all items on the list of superlatives.

E. It would have to be that way, because – if a couple doesn’t have the sacred “meeting of the minds,” they have nothing.

K. Without it, they shrink to mere “John and Mary” status, pursuing only a physical symbol of oneness, a mechanical parody of nexus, without the underlying reality. And that’s why their love has “a nasty habit of disappearing overnight.” How could it be otherwise? They never enjoyed the underlying eternal substance -- the holy "meeting of the minds" -- to which the symbol was meant to point.

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